You're Way too Nice
The Pick Me Up is a Monday morning newsletter filled with advice, personal stories, and tips to help you get out of bed and jumpstart your week.
Greetings, friend! It’s me, Jen Glantz. I’m writing this to you from my tiny little kitchen table.
I've been writing these Monday Pick-Me-Up emails for 8+ years.
I wrote them when I had 2 subscribers (Hi, mom and dad) and I wrote them during some of the hardest weeks of my life.
So on this first of the month Monday, I want to simply say thank you for reading this, week-after-week. My goal with my writing has always been to make people feel less alone in life. I hope this newsletter helps you do that on Mondays.
Thank you for reading this today. It means so many mighty things to me.
In this issue: How to let people do nice things for you, ways to thank people in your life, and side hustle ideas you might enjoy that can make you extra $$$.
Why you’re getting this: I'm Jen Glantz and this is The Pick-Me-Up newsletter. I've been sending it every Monday, for 8-years, to thousands of awesome humans, just like you. Thank you for letting this email live in in your inbox. It truly makes my heart explode with joy.
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📚: Instead of sharing a book today, I’m sharing this list of 150 articles online to read about different topics. I dive into this list when I’m feeling a certain way and need a pick-me-up.
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You’re Way too Nice
I have trouble letting people do nice things for me.
The other day, someone got me a gift, and I turned to Adam and said:
"I can't accept this. They must take it back!"
He tried to tell me, for the zillionth time, that when people give you a gift, you simply say thank you. You do not ask them to take it back.
I'm not very good at that.
When people do nice things for me, I try to get them back. I try to repay them and make it all even, as if I'm keeping score on something nobody else is.
But it's just how I am.
I have trouble letting people do nice things for me. I have trouble opening up my entire heart and letting people inside .And when I do open up, I don't open up all the way, I put one of those door stoppers in and micromanage how much I allow it to swing open.
"People do nice things because they want to do nice things." Adam tells me that, for the zillionth time, as I almost order a singing telegram to show up at a friend's door to thank them for the flowers they sent. "You don't have to do something over the top back."
It's okay to let them, it's okay to let people be there for you, celebrate with you, lean on you, love you, learn with you, show up for you, find a way to show that they are thinking of you….
So rather than write five thank you notes to the same person or order a box of cookies to send to a person who got me a box of cookies, I made this list. I hope that it helps you too…
How to let people do nice and kind things for you:
Realize they want to:
People do things because they genuinely want to - not because they have to. Being your friend isn't their full-time job. They aren't required to show up from 9-5. They show up because they want to.
Don't feel like you have to thank them till you're blue in face:
Thanking people is nice. It's the 10000% right thing to do when someone does something for you. But you don't need to send a singing telegram.
Accept it:
Even if you don't think you deserve anyone to love you, be there for you, support you, accept that you're wrong. You do. Everyone does. It might not be easy to always feel that way about yourself, but accept the FACT that other people do.
All my love,
Random Pick-Me-Ups
Side Hustle Inspo: If you ever thought about making some extra cash, here are some odd ways you can do that - whether you have 20-mins extra a week or 20-hours.
An organization hack I can’t stop thinking about.
New on Scared to Be a Mom…Patience.
Launching a new Instagram series called Jen’s secrets where I share secrets around finance, entrepreneurship, being a new mom, and everything else in life. I shared the first one here.
How to say thank you: If you do feel inclined to thank a person or just share some love because you want them to know how grateful you are for them, here are some ideas for you:
👍There’s nothing better than a handwritten note. I just bought these cards as my official thank you cards of the year.
👍Here are some gift ideas you can send someone to thank them.
👍Or give them a gift card to a spot they spend money at quite often (Starbucks, DoorDash, Amazon, etc.)
👍Take them on an experience - whether it’s a trip to a local museum or a spa afternoon.
Ps. Let’s work together - here’s how:
👏1:1 coaching: I specialize in working with people who want to switch careers, start their own business, improve their personal brand, or are feeling lost in life. Book a session and let’s work together this month.
👏Courses: Want a quick pick-me-up? I offer a handful of digital courses that include videos, assignments, and real-time personalized feedback from me along the way. Check them out here - the most popular one is the personal branding course.
👏Company workshops & speaking: I offer company workshops and conference keynotes on topics that include personal branding, social media trends, storytelling, and more. I’ve worked with Google, Apple, HBO, ESPN, and more. Learn more here.
Advertise: Want to showcase your business or brand in one of my newsletters or on my social media? Let’s chat about open opportunities.
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I’ll be back next week with a new Monday Pick-Me-Up. Until then, I leave you with this:
Be your own cheerleader.
There’s a 2% someone will come knocking on your door to turn you into a ⭐️superstar⭐️ to give you the opportunities or the life you really deserve.
You know that, right?
You must be your own:
HERO
FIGHTER
ROLE MODEL
STRATEGIST
BIGGEST FAN
CEO
Happy Monday Jen!! . . . I understand the feeling of being "not worthy" of someone's generosity. Reminds me of the SNL Wayne's World skit with Dana Carvey & Mike Myers. Because of what happened in our childhood, mean kids & bullies, we have difficulty accepting acts of kindness as adults. I also feel the need to reciprocate the kindness with something "grander".