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The Pick Me Up is a Monday morning newsletter filled with advice, personal stories, and tips to help you get out of bed and jumpstart your week.
Greetings, friend! It’s me, Jen Glantz. I don’t think I ever told you this but last Valentine’s Day, Adam and I secretly renewed our vows outside a pizza restaurant, just the two of us, and of course, Goofy.
We canceled our wedding in 2020 because of Covid, got married outside the coffee shop we met in 2021, and decided that every year, we’d spend a tiny chunk of our wedding budget getting married again. Last year, we bought two large pizzas, said updated vows, and had an officiant proclaim us married - again. This year? I don’t know yet where, how, or when. I’m open to suggestions (hit reply).
But the funny thing was, we got into a big fight on the morning of our vow renewal last year. I was so mad about something (I have no idea what) and didn’t talk to Adam the entire day or the ride to the pizza place.
This isn’t something you’d know from the photographs or the Instagram post. But it’s true.
Do you know how awkward it is to read vows to a person you haven’t spoken to all day because you were boiling with anger?
It was awkward until it turned funny until it became a reminder to forgive the ones you love. Communicate first, understand second, and forgive third - especially when it’s something you’ll forget about a day, a week, or a year later.
In this issue: Ways to fall in love with yourself, not-so-cheesy gifts around love, and an interesting article on people who make big money when people fall in and out of love.
Why you’re getting this: I'm Jen Glantz and this is The Pick-Me-Up newsletter. I've been sending it every Monday, for 8-years, to thousands of awesome humans, just like you. Thank you for letting this email live in in your inbox. It truly makes my heart explode with joy.
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Instant Pick Me Ups
🍪: Write a list of everyone in your life you love. Stare at the list. How does it make you feel? Carry it around with you this week. Hold onto it for as long as you can.
📚:This is one of my all-time favorite books about love but told in a creative and oddly unique way. I read it every year.
🎧: I once played this song 156 times in a row while I was dating someone I knew I had to break-up with. Spoiler alert: he broke up with me and I still played this song on repeat for a few more miserable weeks until I tossed the idea of him in a pile of February melted snow.
How to LOVE Yourself
I use Valentine’s Day as a day to be super selfish.
Ever since a psychic told me, at a Valentine's Day party, that I'd never find love, I deiced to ditch the idea of craving romance on that holiday and instead turn inward.
I use V-Day as an excuse to take inventory about how I feel about myself. Some days, I'm proud of all that I am. Other days, I feel like I'm a mess of a human that has to work overtime to hide the quirky things about me. It's like on a Tuesday, I can look at myself in the mirror and feel a buzz of energy about all that I've conquered in my last 30-something years on this planet. Yet, the next day, I can look at that same person and declare her a failure…a failure with acne scars….
When do we ever sit down and pick apart how we treat ourselves? What we say to ourselves? How we feel about every inch of who we are when nobody is else is around and when everyone else is around?
On the 14th of February, I block off a few hours of Jen time and I do the following four things - which I feel are booming ways to help improve how you feel about all that you are a a human:
Understand Yourself: How well do you know yourself? What you're good at? What you enjoy? What you've accomplished in your life? What you're working on? What makes you unique? How about your superpower? Ask yourself these questions in slow-mo.
Challenge Yourself: Remind yourself of how strong you are. Pick something you can challenge yourself with in the week to come. Maybe it's reading for 20-minutes a day, or calling one person in your phone book a day, or doing (1) nice thing for yourself a day. Challenges bring excitement into our lives.
Sit Still With Yourself: Yes, you spend a lot of quality time with yourself these days - but this is different. Carve our 10-minutes a day where you sit still and listen your thoughts and feelings, process them, don't get mad at them, understand them. This will be your path toward processing the mountains of information and things you carry around with you on a daily basis.
Own Up to Yourself: We all have something about us that we're self-conscious about. Own up to the parts of you that might make you feel awkward or nervous to show others.
If you're single, married, dating someone, divorced - it doesn't matter.
It's hard to have a solid and strong relationship if you don't fully understand, trust, listen and adore yourself.
So eat the chocolate, watch the rom-com, and figure out how you're going to put in as much effort in loving yourself as you do the people around you.
All my love,
Random Pick-Me-Ups
Gifts for People You Adore Endlessly:
For someone engaged/recently married
Something for someone you love, love
A cute little something for anyone
People who get paid when love fails/succeeds: I wrote about this in my Odd Jobs’s newsletter today. There’s quite a business around people making money when people get heartbroken or when they fall in love.
Favorite Rom-Com? Leave a comment. Let me know! I adore My Best Friend’s Wedding. I can watch that one on repeat. So many good lines and moments in that movie, ughhh I love it!
Ps. Let’s work together - here’s how:
1:1 coaching // courses // company workshops & speaking
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I’ll be back next week with a new Monday Pick-Me-Up. Until then, I leave you with this:
You are not a burden. You are a person, with feelings, with love, with sadness, with regret, with beauty. Don’t apologize for any of that.